Albert Ellis

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world.

Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.

I thought foolishly that Freudian psychoanalysis was deeper and more intensive than other more directive forms of therapy so I was trained in it and practiced it.

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past so we change how people are thinking feeling and behaving today.

I hope to die in the saddle seat.

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness.

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.

I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.

By not caring too much about what people think I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.

People got insights into what was bothering them but they hardly did a damn thing to change.

In the old days we used to get more referrals because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.

As a result of my philosophy I wasn't even upset about Hitler. I was willing to go to war to knock him off but I didn't hate him. I hated what he was doing.

If something is irrational that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic.

Most people would have given up when faced with all the criticism I've received over the years.