To hate is to show you still care, who needs that, focus on what's really important.
I believe that one defines oneself by reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself. To cut yourself out of stone.
Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength, move on.
It's something that occurs to me many times in my movies. They can often be treated comically or dramatically and I usually opt to treat them comically. But it occurred to me that you could get a story and you could fool around with it both ways.